I think it’s safe to say that most of us (or all of us) have gone through ups and downs in our lives, regardless of how big. We’ve gone through periods of life where our health and happiness might take a toll. I can definitely relate to this and have been there myself, so I wanted to share some things you can eliminate for a happier, healthier you.
I feel like toxic relationships aren’t something we’re really able to recognize until we’re adults. Somehow in middle school and high school, we fail to realize that those friends who put us down, control us, and make us feel mentally and emotionally exhausted are toxic, and not really friends at all. As adults, I think we’re more confident in ourselves and value ourselves and our time more, so we’re not as willing to put up with those who are making our lives more negative. I’m sure we’ve all had that friend (or friends) who just make you feel negative and bitter when you spend time with them. Maybe it’s because of their constant negative attitude, or their treatment toward you. Either way, it’s never too late to purge these friendships from your life for your own mental health and happiness.
Raise your hand if you’ve ever looked in the mirror and said (either out loud or in your head) something negative and hateful about your appearance. *Raises Hand*. Yeah, I figured I wasn’t alone here. It might seem harmless enough, but that self-hate is toxic. Imagine you’re going out with friends, and you’ve put on what you think is a killer outfit. But then you look in the mirror and pick out all the things you hate about your appearance, and how the outfit looks on you. Suddenly you spend your entire girls night out thinking of how you look instead of letting loose and having fun. You know what, though? Know one else is noticing all those negative things you saw in the mirror.
Way too often we let self-hate get in the way of being truly happy. So next time you look in the mirror, I challenge you to pick out three things you love about your appearance. And next time you feel that hate creeping in, remind yourself of those three things!
Saying Yes When You Want to Say No
Anyone who is a people-pleaser probably struggles with this one. Whether it’s going out with friends when you’d really rather by laying on the couch snuggling with your dog, or collaborating on a blog post with a company who conveniently doesn’t have a marketing budget for that project, saying yes when we want to say no is taking a toll on us. Not only do we often end up volunteering our own time and money, but it impacts our happiness and our self-worth. So next time something comes up that you don’t really want to agree to, put yourself first. Think first about how saying yes will impact you before you think about whether someone else will be offended or annoyed.
I wish this was something that we all just naturally grew out of, but I’m pretty sure it’s not. Since Dave and I have been in savings mode for the past couple of years (first for a wedding, then for a house) we’ve been forced to really examine our budget and notice the crazy amount of money we waste on things like take-out and random trips to Target (I know I’m not alone here!) It’s one of those nasty habits that you don’t think about as you’re swiping the credit card repeatedly, but it causes you all sorts of guilt and regret later. I promise you, you’ll feel so much better about yourself when you kick this habit and start putting away money. Plus you’ll probably be healthier without your daily latte and take out.
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The comparison trap is an ugly one, but I admit it’s one I fall in occasionally. Whether it’s another woman’s outfit or appearance, or another blogger’s success or beautiful Instagram account, it’s hard to avoid. It’s moments like that you have to remind yourself to stay in your own lane. You know why? Because one person’s success does not equal your failure. If your blog isn’t doing as well as you’d like, it is not because the person next to you has a successful blog. There isn’t one winner and one loser in life! So instead of focusing on one person you feel is doing better than you, focus on your own life, your own blog, etc. That is the only way to improve.
I don’t know about you, but I can feel the toll on my happiness on my mental health when I procrastinate too much on projects. I’ve said time and time again on this blog and planning ahead and staying organized is my best tactic for beating burnout, and that’s absolutely the case here as well. Procrastination adds so much unnecessary stress. Though it may seem preferable to put off projects in favor of other things, staying organized and productive is so much better for our happiness in the long run! There’s no better feeling than having a project done way ahead of schedule, right?
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What are you working on eliminating from your life for a happier, healthier you?
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