Do you ever sit down to write a blog post and the words just flow out of you right away because it’s a topic that’s so, so personal to you? That’s how this post was for me! Self-doubt sucks. A lot. And it’s something I’ve had my fair share of over the years. This guide is all about helping you overcome self-doubt, or at least making it more manageable and easier to quiet!
HOW TO OVERCOME SELF-DOUBT
Know You’re Not Alone
Often it probably feels like you’re the only one struggling with major self-doubt. Just know that you’re not. Seriously. We all deal with it at some point, whether it be in our career or our personal life. Talk it out with a friend. Not only will this help you talk through your own feelings of self-doubt, but it will show you that you definitely aren’t alone.
Remember Your Wins
When I’m struggling with a lot of self-doubts, I find myself focusing pretty much solely on the negative. If things aren’t going well with my blog, I forget about all the awesome things I’ve accomplished and the awesome people I’ve been able to meet through blogging.
But when you’re feeling some serious self-doubt, it’s time to think positive. Even something as simple as putting a few post-it notes around your workspace with major wins you’ve had can help perk you up when you can only focus on the negative.
Escape the Comparison Trap
One of the worst things you can do when it comes to overcoming self-doubt is to compare yourself to other people! If you’re constantly looking for people who are a few steps ahead of you in life or in their career, I promise you’ll be able to find them. But seriously, why spend all of your time comparing your life to that of someone who is just going to make you feel bad about yourself? Focus on your own life, because the time spent comparing yourself to others is just time you aren’t spending getting yourself where you want to be.Focus on your own life, because the time spent comparing yourself to others is just time you aren’t spending getting yourself where you want to be. Click To Tweet
Constantly comparing yourself to others is also going to cause resentment toward others, which isn’t fair. There’s no reason we can’t all be successful and one person’s success does not equal your failure.
Know Your Own Definition of Success
If you’re using someone else’s definition of success as your measuring stick, you’re going to constantly find yourself falling short, and experiencing self-doubt because of it. Figure out what makes you happy and what would make you feel successful.
This is one I personally have been battling a lot this year with things going on in my personal life. When I turned 26, I was married and had recently purchased my first house. By the time I turned 27, I was newly single and living in a studio apartment. It felt like I had taken several huge steps back in life. But that’s because I was looking at someone else’s version of success.
Set Achievable Goals and Milestones
Something that always helps with my self-doubt and gives me a big confidence booster is reaching one of my goals. Don’t set low goals for the sake of knowing you’ll be able to meet them, but set practical ones that you’ll be able to meet if you work hard enough and that will make you feel awesome for having reached them!
One of the biggest business-related goals I set for myself was publishing my eBook. It was a ton of work and took me about three months from start to finish, but finally launching it and seeing sales start to roll in was the absolute best feeling.
Address the Areas of Doubt
If there are specific areas where you’re feeling self-doubt or a major lack of confidence, it’s 100% within your control to do something about it! When there’s an area of my business where I’m struggling or feel like I’m not doing as well as I should be, it definitely starts to get to me. I start doubting myself and get really frustrated. But then I figure out what exactly needs to be fixed, and I start working on it. I’ve taken quite a few courses and read eBooks in the past to help me grow my business in areas where I was previously struggling.
Whether it’s related to your career or your personal life, take those specific areas of self-doubt and figure out what you can do to address it. It might be taking a class to hone a specific skill, or even just getting more organized and rearranging your schedule to devote more time to a specific area of your life.
Don’t Use Your Self Doubt As An Excuse
Your self-doubt is real, and it sucks. But don’t use it as an excuse not work hard, not to take risks, not to go after things you want. Whether it be in your personal life or your professional life, you need to face your fears and tackle those areas where you’re feeling self-doubt!
Throughout high school and college, I was always confident in my abilities in school and work but struggled with a lot of self-doubts personally. I used it as an excuse not to put myself out there and I think I missed out on a lot of experiences when I was younger because of it.
Taking a risk and going after something you want can be super scary, but don’t let your self-doubt stop you from doing it. Use all the other tips I shared above to squash that self-doubt, or at least quiet it enough that you can ignore it.
BEFORE YOU GO
What do you to do deal with self-doubt? Leave a comment and let us know so other readers can try your tips too!
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