If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the last ten years, it’s that life has seasons, the seasons are constantly changing and never seem to stick around long, and that each season has been so distinctly different from any before it. Sadly, I hear so many people complain about the season of life they’re in, wishing they could move onto the next one. I can relate because I’ve been there as well. But I’ve also learned the importance of embracing the season of life you’re in, which is what I want to talk about in this blog post.
Change happens a lot in the early years of adulthood, meaning most seasons don’t last long. I can still remember the feeling of being in high school, so anxious to graduate and move onto college and the next season of my life. And when I did, I found myself missing my high school friends desperately. In the last two years of college, I couldn’t wait to graduate and start my real life. And yet when I graduated, I missed the security blanket of having all of my closest friends living within a few block radius, and the familiarity of the job and school that had been a part of my first four years of adulthood.
Since graduating college, I’ve gone through more seasons still, and more significant ones. There were the years that my then-fiance and I were financially recovering from moving to a more expensive city, not spending money on ourselves for two years because we were saving for a wedding, and immediately starting over once the wedding was over to start saving for a house. It seemed that I had finally figured out the rest of my life with the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, but we just couldn’t afford to live it.
There was the season where we had purchased our first home, were happily married, and enjoying making the house our own with our two pets.
And just over a year later, in an even more drastic change, I was divorced, single for the first time since I was 20, and moving from my beautiful home into a studio apartment. It’s safe to say that change in seasons brought more stress and anxiety than the rest combined.
Now that some time has passed, I’m once again learning to enjoy the season of life I’m in. I’m enjoying having time to myself, enjoying getting settled in my apartment, and enjoying development friendships that hadn’t been as much of a priority over the last several years. I could look at this massive life change as disastrous and lose all hope. But right now I would rather look at it as an opportunity to get to know myself again and find things that make me incredibly happy.
My current season of life has also caused me to regret the anxiety I felt in other seasons of life to quickly move on and leave things behind. I wish I had spent more time soaking in the people and experiences around me. It occurs to me now more than ever that being unhappy in your season of life is often a choice (not always, but often.) I wish I had taken more advantage of the seasons the preceded this one.
So the next time you’re finding yourself disliking your life because of the season of life you’re in remember that:
- Seasons of life are temporary. Where are you now, you won’t be forever.
- Many things that contribute to our unhappiness are our choice. If your unhappiness is caused by your job, your relationship, toxic friendships, etc., you have the power to change your situation.
- Regardless of the season you’re in, find something to enjoy about it. Look for the positive parts of every situation.
So if you’re living your life on auto-pilot, just closing your eyes until the current season of life has passed, I urge you to reconsider. Because someday you may look back with regret on this season and wish you had embraced it.